Parenting Can Be a Challenge

Apr 15th, 2019

Parenting a child with rebellious behavior is a challenge — but it is one that parents can overcome with the appropriate strategies. Below are some ideas that have been proven to work — and which can benefit all children, not just those with challenging behavior.

    • Be sure your child knows that you love him even if you don’t always like his behavior.
      Every day — perhaps at bath time, perhaps when you’re walking home from child care — set aside time to have fun together. Give him your undivided attention, let him choose the activity, and make sure he knows you like playing with him. These positive moments nourish their self-esteem and point the way to more positive moments.


    • Encourage appropriate behavior, and minimize the opportunities for challenging behavior.
      These tactics are important because in the first decade of life, every positive and negative experience affects the permanent wiring of the brain. You can build appropriate patterns if you anticipate trouble, prevent the difficult situation from occurring, and help your child to remember what to do instead of correcting his mistakes.


    • Make your home an environment where your child can succeed.
      Remove fragile objects, create comfortable play areas, select toys that interest him, and keep them well organized and within his reach.


    • Plan activities around your child’s needs.
      If John has tantrums when he’s hungry, give him a snack before you go shopping. If you serve lunch on the kitchen table, suggest that he do his puzzles on the coffee table so he won’t have to put them away when it’s time to eat.


    • Set clear limits and enforce them consistently.
      Your child needs to know what you expect. But be sure that you have the time and energy to follow through. If you are already late for work, it is okay if he leaves the Legos on the floor.


    • Create routines and stick to them.
      Children feel more comfortable when they know what’s coming next. For the same reason, it helps to give advance notice of changes in activity (“You can slide down three more times, and then it’s time to go home”).


    • Learn to recognize anxiety in your child.
      When Irene whines, that is your cue to stop sorting laundry, give her a smile, ask if you can help, and listen closely. If you can catch the problem at this early stage, you can prevent challenging behavior.


    • Offer a limited choice when you see trouble coming
      (“Do you want your milk in the red cup or the blue one?”), and guide your child’s behavior by telling him what to do instead of what not to do (“Ask Paul if you can play,” not “Don’t grab”). Be patient if he needs exactly the same directions an hour later — he is young, he forgets and he needs to practice.


    • Put yourself in your child’s shoes and try to figure out what he gets from his challenging behavior.
      Does he get your attention (positive or negative)? Does he avoid something he dislikes or isn’t good at? Does the atmosphere become calmer (or more exciting)? Once you know what the challenging behavior brings him, you can help him to get it in a more acceptable way.


    • Stay calm.
      When things don’t go smoothly, take a deep breath and count to five. By showing your child that you can handle the situation with a cool head, you become their best role model.


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